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Sexual Assault Victims Afraid to Come Forward

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As almost 20 women across the country have come forward to accuse an iconic entertainer of sexual assault and many other express outrage, hundreds of people give him a standing ovation at a comedy performance in Florida. And this is not unusual. People who speak about being sexually assaulted or abused often find that the general public seem to feel entitled to pass judgment on their motivation, their character and even the truthfulness of their claim without the benefit of any knowledge of the facts in the matter. All the while the accused perpetrator is lauded and in many cases defended.

Knowing that complete strangers, who may only have a hint of information, find it acceptable to discuss these personal, intimate matters, while voicing strong, and not necessarily positive opinions about the victims, can be part of what prevents those assaulted from coming forward. Unfortunately, there are many obstacles standing between those who experienced abuse and justice.

Victims quite often blame themselves about what they could have done differently, or how they should have known the assault was going to happen. There is often fear of the perpetrator. Whether real or exaggerated, victims often are afraid of what other harm could come to them or to their loved ones.

There is also a great deal of shame for those who have had their bodies violated. When we are shamed, there is a huge urge to avoid any situation or interaction that will bring attention to what happened. So the idea of being asked intimate details and then having those answers scrutinized is just too much for many people.  When the perpetrator is famous, there is even more negative attention.

What can also be particularly discouraging for those who have not felt comfortable speaking up, is hearing friends and family criticize other victims. Many of us do not realize that 20 percent – or two out of every 10 individuals – are sexually abused. That means that when we share these comments in a group — wondering out loud why a victim didn’t speak up sooner or commenting about a victim’s clothing or choice in companions — we may be contributing to a victim’s reluctance to come forward for fear of being hurt again, Yet telling someone is the only way to start the healing process.

The Baltimore Jewish community provides a channel for victims to tell and that is CHANA.

CHANA provides crisis intervention, education, trauma therapy and consultation for victims and their families while advocating for community awareness, safety and healing.

While it is the job of the staff at CHANA to directly respond to these courageous victims, it is everyone’s responsibility to be mindful of their words and actions in the face of stories about abuse.  Let us not allow our thoughtless comments create any additional barriers for the silent victims in our presence to come forward to find help, hope and healing.

Learn more about CHANA.

 

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5 Things To Do This Week in Baltimore

Check out these great events for the whole family sponsored by The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore or Associated agencies.

Christopher O’Riley – Out Of My Hands
Saturday, December 6, 8:00 p.m.
Gordon Center for Performing Arts
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Imagine hearing the famous rock tunes of REM, Nirvana and Pink Floyd transformed into contemporary classical masterpieces. Christopher O’Riley, recognized as one of the leading American pianists of his generation and host of the popular NPR music program, From the Top, introduces Baltimore audiences to the next generation of classical music stars. Enjoy his renditions of the music of Radiohead, Portishead, Cocteau Twins, The Smiths, Tears for Fears and Elliott Smith. Sponsored by the Peggy and Yale Gordon Trust, tickets are $28 in advance; $32 at the door. For information, go to jcc.org/Gordon-center/music/.

Priceless Dress Exchange
Sunday, December 7, 11:30 a.m. – 2:30 p.m.
Mitchell David Teen Center
A large selection of ‘brand new, with tags’ special occasion dresses from a well-known boutique has been received and we are GIVING THEM AWAY to teen girls who are looking to save some money this B’nai Mitzvah season. Event is held in conjunction with CHANA.
For information, go to jointeens.org/priceless-dresses/

A Family Chanukah with Joanie Leeds
Sunday, December 7, 2:30 – 3:30 p.m.
Jewish Museum of Maryland at the Herbert Bearman Campus
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It’s Downtown Dollar Day and families can get into the Chanukah mood with a rocking family Chanukah concert featuring Joanie Leeds and the Nightlights! Your family will sing and dance to the music of this gifted children’s musician, whose albums include City Kid, Parent’s choice award-winner, and I’m a Rock Star. Then create a handmade Chanukah-themed craft.
For information, go to jewishmusuem.org.

Community Screening of Beneath the Helmet
Monday, December 8, 7:00 p.m.
Beth Tfiloh Rosen Arts Center
Take yourself inside the Israel Defense Forces (IDF) for the Baltimore premier of Beneath the Helmut, a documentary film that explores the intimate journey of young Israelis as they prepare to defend their country at any cost. Following the film, Lt. (res.) Aviv Regev, featured in Beneath the Helmet, will join former IDF soldiers who served in elite combat units, for a panel discussion.
Tickets are $5 for adults and free for students with ID. Reservations are required as seating is limited. Event is held in conjunction with Beth Tfiloh and Friends of the Israel Defense Forces (IDF).

5 People Skills Every Child Needs to Learn
Monday, December 8, 7:00 – 9:00 p.m.
Edward A. Myerberg Center
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Is your child painfully shy or a tad rambunctious? Does he or she have trouble making friends? Do you need tools to teach them how to resolve an argument with a best friend?
If so, this program is for you. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, psychologist and writer, whose articles have appeared in Parents magazine and the Huffington Post, will share “5 People Skills Every Child Needs to Learn.”
Program is presented by SHEMESH. A $5 donation is suggested. Go to shemeshbaltimore.org/events for more information.

 

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Eating Seasonally: The Farm-To-Table Movement

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Delicata Squash Dream Boat
(courtesy of Pearlstone Farm)

Cut two medium sized delicata squash lengthwise. Scoop out seeds and dispose. Put squash upside down on rimmed cookie sheet; add 1 cup of water to the sheet. Bake at 350 for half an hour.

Turn squash boats over and put a pat of butter and 1 tablespoon of real maple syrup in each cavity. Roast at 450 for an additional 10-15 minutes or until browned and soft. Remember that the delicata’s skin is tender and not bitter so eat whole!

It’s no secret that the farm-to-table movement is growing all over the country. From proliferating farmers’ markets and Community Supported Agriculture (CSA) programs, to specialty restaurants like Baltimore’s Woodberry Kitchen, people are taking a new interest in where their food comes from and how it is produced. The Pearlstone Center in Reisterstown, MD is leading the charge on the farm-to-table movement in Baltimore’s Jewish community.

The farm to table movement is just what it says—a movement to bring food directly from the farm to your table. Restaurants that hold themselves out as being a part of the farm-to-table movement are ones who source their food from a farm, usually one close enough to visit.  And if you can visit the farm, speak with the farmer, see the animals grazing or the crops growing — there is a good chance the farmer has nothing to hide.

Farm-to-table restaurants are putting in the extra effort to source ingredients that might cost a little more because it is more expensive to produce crops when the workers are paid reasonable wages and animals are treated ethically. But the increased costs may be partially offset by lower delivery costs due to local sourcing.

The Pearlstone Center is proud of its growing farm-to-table program. Pearlstone’s perennial crops include divers fruit orchards, brambles, perennial herbs, asparagus and gourmet mushrooms on just over two acres of land. For the past four years, Pearlstone’s onsite farm has been gradually supplying more and more of its own kitchen’s seasonal produce. This year was also the first year Pearlstone began working with other small, local farmers to source more ingredients from nearby for its own kitchen.

Pearlstone also supports local restaurants in their efforts to join the farm-to-table movement.  Pearlstone’s farm supplies specialty items such as culinary herbs and log-grown shiitake mushrooms to some of Baltimore’s top restaurants. Pearlstone’s farm also makes weekly donations of fresh produce to a local homeless shelter during the growing season.

In 2014, Pearlstone’s educational programming included opportunities for guests to participate in the preparation of a farm-to-table meal, and then to enjoy a meal comprised of ingredients harvested from our farm that same day.  By all accounts, the meals were superb.

Also in 2014, Pearlstone started creating in-house jams, jellies and preserves to support year-round local offerings. During the shmitah year, when Pearlstone plans to take a step back from production farming, we hope to vastly increase our purchasing of other area small farmers’ produce. Putting dollars in the pockets of small local farmers is one of the best things we can do to support the local food industry.

Stay tuned for more exciting farm-to-table developments at Pearlstone, such as seasonal outdoor farm feasts, sustainable simcha offerings, and a line of home-made locally sourced products for sale in our gift shop.

Enjoy this winter side dish:
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Steamed Collard Greens
Wash one bunch collards and cut into one inch strips – you can trim the base of the leaves but keep the thick ribs intact.
Place in large covered pot with one inch water in bottom.
Steam  covered for 20-25 minutes or until center ribs are tender.
Drain liquid and add butter, lemon, maple syrup (optional) and salt and pepper to taste.

 

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5 Things To Do This Week in Baltimore

Check out these great events for the whole family sponsored by The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore or Associated agencies.

Saturday, November 15
Pre-show: 7:00 p.m.; Performance: 8:00 p.m.
Hot Rize – America’s Bluegrass Band Rides Again
Gordon Center for Performing Arts
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Grammy-nominated bluegrass band Hot Rize comes to the Gordon to debut their first album in 24 years. Enjoy their unique contemporary approach to traditional bluegrass music. Event is co-presented with Charm City Folk and Bluegrass Festival. Pre-show features live music with Letitia VanSant and beer tastings with Baltimore’s own Union Craft BrewingTickets are $35 in advance and $39 at the door. Learn more.

Sunday, November 16
11:30 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.
JCC’s Annual College Fair
Rosenbloom Owings Mills JCC
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High school students and parents can meet with representatives from more than 40 colleges and universities nationwide. Attend free workshops to learn about the admission process, hear about financing a college education, discover Israeli programs after high school and understand how to choose the right college to meet your needs. Go to College Center to learn more.

Sunday, November 16
1:30 – 3:30 p.m.
Family Farm Days
Pearlstone Center
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Join us for our monthly Family Farm Days, where you will explore a different Jewish environmental theme. This month, help make the farm ready for winter, learn how to identify and plant trees, discover native plants, visit the animals in the pasture and explore the farm’s bounty! Program is $15 per family. Learn more.

Sunday, November 16
3:00 – 5:00 p.m.
Footworks Percussive Dance Ensemble
Gordon Center for Performing Arts
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INCREDIBLE FEETS entertains with a music and dance performance that celebrates percussive dances from around the world. Enjoy percussive dance and music from Ireland, England, South Africa, Canada and the American South. Show includes audience participation and lots of foot-tapping fun. Tickets are $10 in advance and $12 at the door. Program is sponsored by BGE with support from the Maryland State Arts Council. Learn more.

Tuesday, November 18
6:30 p.m.
Meet Your Elected Officials
The Associated Krieger Building
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Join the Baltimore Jewish Council for a special session to meet and greet local legislators. Learn about their priorities in the upcoming year. Learn more

 

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5 Things To Do This Week in Baltimore

Check out these great events for the whole family sponsored by The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore or Associated agencies.

Sunday, November 9
10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.
Lloyd Street Synagogue 50th Anniversary
Jewish Museum of Maryland

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Celebrate the rededication of the Lloyd Street Synagogue with several special programs. Take the synagogue’s newest tour, “Technology in the Temple,” which delves into how technological revelations in the 19th century led to the development of this historic landmark. The Baltimore Museum of Industries will also present “Mendes’ Baltimore: The Industries that Build a City,” which explores the importance of technology in the development of Baltimore.

Because the anniversary coincides with Kristallnacht, Martin Levin Artistic Creations will showcase his Kristallnacht series of miniature synagogue facades, including the Lloyd Street Synagogue and B’nai Israel. Programs free with museum admission. Learn more.

Tuesday, November 11
6:30 p.m.
Open Mic Nights
Gordon Center for Performing Arts
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Local musicians are invited to showcase their talents at the Gordon Center’s Open Mic night. Bring your family and friends to cheer you on. Many evenings also feature special appearances by professional singers and musicians. Sign up is at 6:30 p.m.; show begins at 7:00 p.m. Refreshments are available. Learn more.

Tuesday, November 11
7:00 p.m.
Israel, the 114th Congress and the Obama Administration: Looking Ahead
Chizuk Amuno Congregation
Will there be changes in Israel policy now that a new Congress has been elected?  Join Art Abramson, Ph.D., executive director of the Baltimore Jewish Council (BJC), as he  takes a look ahead on the situation in Israel. This is the final program in Baltimore Israel Coalition’s Israel series. Go to baltimoreisraelcoalition.org/israelseries to learn more.

Wednesday, November 12
10:00 a.m. and 7:00 p.m.
Talk Camp, Drink Coffee & S’more
Dunkin Donuts in Owings Mills Boulevard Shopping Center
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Looking for the perfect camp experience for your child? Janna Zuckerman, program manager of The Associated’s Center for Jewish Camping, has the inside scoop on Jewish day and overnight camp programs around the country. Join this expert over donuts and coffee to help you navigate programs, budget, locations and schedules for your child. Service is free and is designed for second graders to high school seniors. Learn more at associated.org/talkcamp.

Thursday, November 13
6:00 – 8:00 p.m.
JCC Camp Open House and Registration Night
Rosenbloom Owings Mills JCC
Future and returning camp families are invited to join us for an evening of camp festivities, including Gaga, music, sports, arts and crafts AND the JCC’s newest group fitness program for children, “Born to Move.TM” Don’t miss this great opportunity to meet our camp directors and learn about the many camp offerings, and don’t forget to wear your JCC camp t-shirt!
Sign up the same night and reap the rewards, including a raffle for free week of camp. Call Stacy at 410.559.3513 or visit our website  to learn more.

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5 Things To Do This Week in Baltimore

Check out these great events for the whole family sponsored by The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore or Associated agencies.

Sunday, November 2
3:00 p.m.
8th Annual CineFest: Harbour of Hope
Gordon Center for Performing Arts
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Join us for the Maryland premier of this heartbreaking but life-affirming documentary about the unbelievable life stories of three Holocaust survivors. Harbour of Hope tells the story of Irene, Ewa and Joe, who were among the nearly 30,000 survivors that were rescued from German concentration camps and sent to the peaceful harbor town of Malmö, Sweden.
Tickets are $12 in advance, $14 at the door, $5 student rush ticket. For information, go to jcc.org/gordon-center/2014-films/.

Tuesday, November 4
11:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m.
School’s Out: Make Your Voice Count
Jewish Museum of Maryland
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School’s out for Election Day so bring your children to a special program filled with interactive tours and hands-on activities to inspire a deeper understanding of citizenship. Visitors will enjoy a scavenger hunt in the Museum’s permanent exhibit, “Voices of Lombard Street,” meet Ida Rehr, a Ukrainian immigrant to Baltimore in the early 20th century, through the Leo V. Berger Immigrant’s Trunk Living History Performance (11:00 a.m.) and enjoy story time with PJ Library.For more information, go to jewishmuseummd.org/single/schools-out-make-your-voice-count/.

Wednesday, November 5
8:00 – 9:00 p.m.
Support Group for Parents of Children with Attention Issues
CHAI Conference Room
SHEMESH has partnered with CHADD of Greater Baltimore to present “ADHD and its Impact on the WHOLE Family.” The free program will feature Dr. Jean Hinlicky, a child psychiatrist in private practice who also consults for the Kennedy-Krieger Institute. She will talk about new ideas and approaches for how the family can best navigate this challenging issue. To register, call Gila Haor at ghaor@shemeshbaltimore.org or call 410-843-7588.

Thursday, November 6
10:00 a.m. or 7:00 p.m.
Talk Camp, Drink Coffee & S’more
Dunkin Donuts in Owings Mills Boulevard Shopping Center
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Second graders to high school seniors – there’s a camp experience for your child. Stop by the Dunkin Donuts in Owings Mills and sit down with Janna Zuckerman of The Center for Jewish Camping for a chance to learn about Jewish camp programs around the country and discuss what options best fit your family’s needs. For information, go to associated.org/talkcamp.

Thursday, November 6
Pre-Reception, 5:30 p.m.; Program, 6:30 p.m.
One Sole Can Make A Difference
Temple Oheb Shalom

Jane Weitzman

Jane Weitzman, former executive vice president of Stuart Weitzman, founding vice president of Stuart Weitzman Retail and author of Art and Sole, will speak about her book, community and philanthropy. Weitzman spearheaded philanthropy for the company by generating funds to support breast and ovarian cancer research and awareness. Cost is $30 per person for program, $50 per person for pre-reception, program and book. For information, go to associated.org/womenfallevent.

 

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Women: Seventy Years is Just the Start

Five women leaders

By Elizabeth Schuman

If you want something said, ask a man. If you want something done, ask a woman.
– Margaret Thatcher, former Prime Minister of the United Kingdom

One rainy fall afternoon, some 20 women gathered at the home of current Associated Women President Rina Janet.  Former presidents and/or campaign chairs, their shared connection inspired a lively conversation about history, experiences and accomplishments under their tenures and beyond.

Though the guests covered the decades between the 1970s and today, all agreed on one compelling takeaway, voiced by Genine Fidler, 1998 Women’s Campaign Chair: “We’ve built a power base to ensure the survival and strength of the Associated and our community. The support and power of Associated Women gives women the ability to achieve the highest possible positions in our community.”

As Associated Women celebrates its 70th Anniversary, it’s no stretch to say that the story of Associated Women mirrors the journey of women in 20th century America to today.  It’s a journey that reflects what women have always done – volunteer their time and money to help others, from family and friends to  people they would never meet. It’s a journey that reflects women’s changing roles – from working in the home to holding leadership positions in business and on nonprofit and corporate boards.

The women’s journey began even before the Associated Jewish Charities (precursor to today’s Associated) 1920 founding. Baltimore’s Jewish women were helping organizations such as the Hebrew Ladies Sewing Circle and Hebrew Ladies Orphans Aid Society. When the Women’s Division of Associated Jewish Charities was founded officially in 1945, just after World War II ended, the move represented the first step to a formal woman’s role within the organization and Jewish Baltimore.

Much has happened in 70 years.

Fortunately, a record of the early history of Associated Women is documented in two carefully-written booklets, chronicling the path from the original Women’s Division to the renamed Women’s Department in 1995. In the nearly 20 years since, there have been more transformational changes – in goals, accomplishments and today’s name: Associated Women.

A new history volume is underway, slated to premiere at the Women’s Annual Meeting in June 2015. The project, chaired by Annette Cooper, Associated Women President 1999-2001 and 1993 Campaign Chair, will pay homage to the early years and focus on what’s happened since 1995. We’ve begun talking with many of the women who were seated around Rina’s table and many others who held leadership roles of every stripe. Already, some themes have emerged:

  • Family
    Many women were inspired by their mothers and other family. Almost to a person, the women talk about the next generation and their hopes of inspiring their daughters, sons and grandchildren.
  • Community
    Community remains a constant. From providing services for those in need to creating outreach efforts to connect women to The Associated, these leaders have never forgotten the importance of Klal Yisroel,  the link between Jewish people in Baltimore, Israel and around the world.
  • Initiatives
    Programs such as CHANA and the Jewish Women’s Giving Foundation were born of vision and hard work, prime examples of how the women behind Associated Women have never been about the status quo and have always been about recognizing problems and creating solutions.

Collectively, the women gathered around Rina’s table that fall afternoon represented decades of experience, commitment and knowledge. As they continued to talk and share, Rina reminded us all:

“We planted seeds for the next generation,” said Rina. “Today, let’s ask: ‘Seventy years from now, what are our aspirations for our daughters?”

Our history continues to be written.

Learn more at associated.org/women

 

 

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